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How to Find Universal Love and Happiness?

“By Jim Chilson”

What is universal love?

Love and Happiness: would say universal love definition is the love of life – a spiritual connection with all there is. And finding it is just realizing that it exists within you. It is not something we hunt for.

As a broad notion, spirituality allows for a variety of viewpoints. It often entails a quest for purpose in life and generally involves a feeling of connection to something greater than ourselves. As a result, it is a shared human experience that affects everyone. A spiritual experience may be sacred, sublime, or a profound sense of aliveness and connectivity.

Some people could discover that their affiliation with a church, temple, mosque, or synagogue is closely related to their spiritual life. Others look for significance in their relationships with nature or the arts. Others could pray or find solace in a close personal connection with God or a higher power.

Getting ourselves to the spiritual side of things can help us be more receptive to attracting the feelings of universal love – it is where a lot of love happens. And love is the reason for our world to happen. We were created out of love. That means you and I and everyone we see were created out of love. We are love. And we often do not feel it or know it.

Most of us think we are so far from universal love and joy, and they did feel it they are such distant memories that we give up, and the thought of ever being in that state again is unimaginable.

Fortunately, it is easy if you think about how to be happy in life or what is the art of happiness. It is a lot easier than doing the dishes or mowing a lawn because it is really something that you don’t have to do. More like you have to relax and let go and allow it in.

It can be an erasing of everything else let’s say, on a whiteboard filled with words and emotions and you delete each word until you get to the bottom and realize universal love, way under everything else, is what the white board of each person’s life is based on.

Love. Suppose you have felt it before. It is easy to feel it again. And if you never have, it is easy to feel what it feels like. Our doubt-filled minds may make us think about how to be happy and how difficult feeling love and happiness is. We tell ourselves we need this thing or that to happen to feel happy. We use Hollywood to tell us what love is. No, we need to let down our guard and allow love to enter our defenses. Did you know fear is the opposite of love? Let down those shields and feel the energy. And feel the love for and from others.

The happiness or love genes are not working. Most people do not know if they have ever or can ever felt love. Most think they haven’t and can’t and never will feel it. But it also seems to be everyone’s greatest desire. But they think it might be genetically impossible because the more they try to grasp it, the more it eludes them.

I contend that most people who have felt love for anything can feel it again easily and live in joy whenever they want.

First, universal love is no different at its core than romantic love. Romantic love is a part of universal love. Both trigger emotions often described as nervous happiness when one sees the object of their desire—a tingling in the heart. Excitement and anticipation – the stuff we all lust after it?

Love is right in front of you

That feeling can be in everything we think we like a lot. What is your favorite food in the world? Maybe it is a dress. Or shoes? Everyone loves something. Some even love being miserable.

What happens when you enter a shop that has it? Just what do you long for? How do you feel? Hands clammy, eyes dart nervously, mouth waters, you can taste the love in the air.

You think of how fine the art of happiness looks being brought to you, and you cannot wait. Remember every detail of how it looks, how it makes you feel.

The first feelings of love is the same, and love is love.

For a minute, you smile and feel happy.

It can work similarly for an old sports car you want to drive again. You remember how it looked, handled, and the engine’s sound. You can remember almost every line and were happy whenever you got near it.

This is what peace, love, and happiness feel like, a love of anything and anyone. Now spread it to everyone and everything. You know what it feels like. See it and appreciate it in more and more things around you.

And look how happy it makes you feel.

Love and happiness is your choice:

It is your choice to appreciate it or not. To be happy or not. It is not up to anyone or anything else. Most people allow outside influences to control their happiness, and it is true that it can be difficult to be happy when you are caught with a flat tire on a lonely road in the middle of a rain storm and your phone just died. But even though you can not control the circumstances of any situation, you do have control over one thing. Yourself and your emotions. You can flip out or more calmly figure out a solution. It is your choice. While it is generally out of your control to choose the things you love, it is up to you to be happy about them. To be glad that you love chocolate Mousse Tracks ice cream or not. Loving the chance to be alive now and experiencing the world for a higher purpose is your choice.

Is love happiness?

Most people have been in love multiple times and with all kinds of things or creatures. Now is the time to expand those feelings and feel the love and happiness for those things you love and life itself. And make yourself feel that joy once again. For more about love please look at our article How to be Happy in a Minute.

Just look around and fall in love again. Love and happiness.

If you want to help someone, give them what they ask for, or don’t give.

How can you help someone?

Stop judging: If I wanted to help someone I wouldn’t give money to people who asked for it but I would buy them food, for example. That is a popular idea. But what are we doing when we do that? What does the Bible say about that? Thou shalt not judge, yet that is often all that we ever do.

We are judging machines. What is good, that one is bad, those people are …. Enough is enough. Judging may have served us in many ways such as judging the safest time to cross the street, but we let it take over our lives. From the actors in our favorite tv shows to our kids and our neighbors, oh, and politicians.

The second definition of discriminate suits us better – to be able to tell the difference. But to judge good or bad, we are told not to. This is the idea in at least Christianity and Buddhism.

How to stop judging others?

We do it all the time. But when we choose to help someone and we take away their power to decide what they want by giving them something other than what they want, we are taking on the role as their father, and for their own good because we are making sure they don’t do something we judge as bad with the money. But we have to be careful when we play the role of help giver. Be careful we do not also take the role of judge.

If a woman asks us for a cigarette and we give them gum because we judge it is healthier for them, who do we serve? Is it them? Or is it our own ego by making us their judge and doctor? And who says the gum is any healthier? Now we need to play nutritionist too.

Of course, there are common sense exceptions. I would not consider giving an obviously harmful item to anyone who asked. But I want to ask us to think about our helping a bit differently. To create helpful helping, thinking about helping in ways that are 100% helpful to the person in need, and helpful to us and our happiness also.

I met an Indian truck driver who gave me pause to think about my philosophy of giving. He said that if someone really needed help with a cigarette and I am having a helping nature but I am against smoking, so I buy him a pack of gum, for example, when I want to help someone it’s really not helping them to give something I think he should have and he doesn’t want. He wants a cigarette and I give him gum. What an ass I am. No matter how much helping nature I am having. So, anyone can help but we should keep our egos at bay.

Stop Judging People:

Anyone can help and helping is great for everyone, but I hope to be able to think carefully about giving what someone asks for and not what I think is best for them.

Or choose to not give. But I will try to not give him something he knows he does not want. I am not his parent and he is not a child. One of the keys to happiness is to stop judging people and things and events as good or bad. We are not God. Actually, we are God, but most have not really accepted that yet. It is so easy to judge others and not see oneself. Even when we tell ourselves we are judging for the right reason.

Discrimination and judging are different. The second definition of discrimination is to know the difference. The first delimitation of judging is judging between right and wrong, good and bad. The worst thing for everyone involved would be to think one is in a superior position to be the giver of help over the one needing help.

So stop judging people.

The ego comes in and can destroy any good work. And remember the only sure thing is that things change – next time the roles could reverse. And as they say, karma is a b$#%.

But who is to say what is right and what is wrong? Doing something right could have the wrong effect on the innocent person who is just caught up in the situation. Good for some can be really bad for others. And often we judge so fast based on little information so, don t judge too quickly. Jumping to conclusions can wear people out.

We see someone wearing worn clothes and we jump to conclusions. We hear a rumor about someone and the bad things they did, even though they are the nicest people to us. So, it is best to not judge and make assumptions when we don’t know the situations of other people or the truth behind the rumors.

Shabby clothes, maybe a relative just died. Who knows? The best thing to do if possible might be to try talking to them. That could be the best way to help. One thing I do know is when I practice not judging it makes me happier because carrying the responsibility of judging everyone I come in contact with and even all those I hear and read about is an exhausting job and I don’t even get paid for it, so I decided – I QUIT!

And now I have time to enjoy my retirement. How can you help someone? Like everything else, ask from our hearts and do not listen to our egos.