If you want to help someone, give them what they ask for, or don’t give, and don’t judge.

If I wanted to help someone I wouldn’t give money to people who asked but I would buy them food, for example, is a popular idea.

We are taking on the role as their father, and for their own good because we are making sure they don’t do something bad with the money.

I met an Indian truck driver who gave me pause to think about my philosophy of giving. He said that if someone really needed help with a cigarette and I am against smoking, so I buy him a pack of gum, for example, I am not really helping him. He wants a cigarette and I give him gum. What an ass I am.

So now I hope to be able to give what someone asks for and not what I think is best for them. Or choose to not give. But I will not give him something he knows he does not want. I am not his parent and he is not a child.

  • Love and happiness
  • You deserve to be happy and loved
  • Happiness is a choice
  • Happiness is a state of mind
  • Good for you. You look happy and healthy
  • Help Someone You Don’t Like

One of the keys to happiness is to stop judging people. You are not God. Actually you are God, but most have not really accepted that yet.

It is so easy to judge others and not see oneself. Even when we tell ourselves we are judging for the right reason.

Descrimination and judging are different. The second definition of descrimination is to know the difference. The first definitinition of judging is judging between right and wrong, good and bad.

But who is to say what is right and what is wrong. Doing something right could have the wrong effect on the innocent person who is just caught up in the situation.

And we judge so fast based on little information.

We see someone wearing worn clothes and we jump to conclusions. We hear a rumor about someone and the bad things they did, even though they are the nicest people to us. “I would be happy all the time too if I had her job. She is the boss’s favorite.”

Well sure, who wants to be around a grumpy sour-faced complaing person?

Shaby clothes, maybe a relative just died. Who knows?

One thing I do know is practice not judging and it will make you happier.

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